Individuality and group thinking

(By Henry Cloud, from a Facebook post)

Great discussion with a board chairman today about the tendency of small groups of people (like a board, or other teams) to get into a kind of "group think" where individuality of opinion is lost. We have a tendency to kind of "go along," if a few people are thinking in a certain way, especially if they are "strong" personalities or have a position of authority.

But....we each have been created with a brain, experiences and abilities that we bring that are valuable to add to the conversation. That is the reason there is a group! But the power of the group can sweep us up and we lose our separateness.

I was thinking also of how this can happen in other relationships, where someone does not feel enough safety or permission, sometimes even inside, to just say an opinion. Over time, a person can lose themselves by not speaking up.

Think of places where you might not show up with your opinions or thoughts. In a work team? A friendship? A spiritual relationship? A close relationship? Ask yourself why not? If your first thought is "because they......" then get back in touch with your individuality and brains, and show up. They need your opinion!

Also, at some time other than the scary discussion, talk about the issue itself. Say, "sometimes when we discuss things, I find myself not saying what I really think or believe or feel because I am afraid of your reaction. I would like to talk about how to feel more free to just say things to each other (or in this team)."

Good things can happen when you begin to talk!

Uma Frase

“If your actions inspire others to dream more, learn more, do more and become more, you are a leader”

"Se as suas ações inspiram outros a sonhar mais, aprender mais, fazer mais e se tornarem pessoas melhores, você é um líder"

John Quincy Adams (1767-1848)

4 Reasons Why I Hate Policies and What to Do About It (Ron Edmondson)

I’ll be honest. I’m not a huge fan of policies. It may be because I’m not a very good rule follower, but I honestly don’t think they work as well as they are intended.

Policies are a course, plan or principle of action. They are designed to offer a sense of control. In theory, policies are to make things better. They are a necessary part of dealing with people in an organizational setting.

My problem with polices is that they often interrupt progress rather than enhance it. If not careful, a policy may control the success you want to see as a leader.

Here are 4 reasons I hate policies:

Policies control a sense of freedom – Policies, by nature, are methods of control, which can limit people’s sense of freedom.

Policies limit ability to think outside the box – Policies can limit thoughts to a pre-determined outcome, which keeps the random and potentially explosive thoughts from developing.

Policies stall attempts at excellence – The parameters of a policy often produce an atmosphere of mediocrity.

Policies curtail the pursuit of progress – The weight of meeting a policy’s demands can take energy from pursuing things with the opportunity of greater progress.

My suggestion?

In lieu of a policy, here are 4 suggestions:

Handle individual problems individually – Rather than create a new policy to control an issue, deal directly with the individual who needs more control. (It works…try it.)

Treat people differently – If a team has more than one person, then there will be more than one type of person on the team. Did you follow that? Policies treat everyone the same, which (I wrote about that HERE)

Lead rather than manage – Management is much about implementing policies and seeing they are adhered to completely. Leadership sets a vision and guides people towards it. Less policies are needed in that process. (I wrote about that HERE)

Allow for more mistakes – Policies are easier to measure. They have a pass/fail assessment attached to them. Without policies, grace and forgiveness can be more freely applied. People can learn from their failures, without the repercussions of breaking a policy.

My bottom line:

I’m not suggesting we can do without policies, but I am suggesting they should not be the “go to” solution to a problem. Most problems in an organization don’t need a new policy. Policies can weigh down progress.

Be honest. Are you more likely to want a policy or resist a policy?

Source: Ron Edmondson

Gordon MacDonald on Leadership

“I have been broken so badly (in leadership) it is a wonder the pieces ever got put back together again. You have a choice you must make every day. Most people will choose to deny the pain or blame others, or you can accept it and in the middle of that pain, you can listen to God. He will say things to you He could not say under any other circumstances.” -- Gordon MacDonald at Germany WCA Conference.

Citado por Peter Scazzero no FB.

A Arte de Negociar

Excelente entrevista na Época Negócios: Wiliam Ury sobre a arte de negociar.

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To my fellows pastors: 10 key points you should remember this coming year (Rick Warren)

As pastors we live with the constant tension between the ideal (our dream for our church) and the real (how things actually are). Here are 10 key points I want you to remember this coming year

1. Ministry is a marathon, not a 50-yard dash. It’s not how you start that matters. It’s how you finish the race. Sustainability counts more than speed. Don’t give up! Paul tells us to run the race for a “heavenly reward that never disappears” (1 Cor. 9:25). Live with your eyes on eternity.


2. Every church is large in God’s eyes. In God’s eyes, there is no such thing as a small or insignificant church. Jesus died for your church. That’s how much your ministry matters to God. It is the Body and Bride of Christ. The church is the only thing on earth that will last forever.


3. There is no correlation between the size and strength of a church. A church can big and flabby just as a church can be small and wimpy. Neither big nor small is better. Healthy is better. Strong is better. Focus on developing people and God will build his church.


4. Never compare your ministry to anyone else’s. God says it is foolish to compare (2 Corinthians 10:12). Why? First, you can always find someone doing a better job than you and you’ll get discouraged. Second, you can always find someone you’re doing a better job than, and you’ll become prideful. Either one can sabotage your ministry. When you get to heaven, God won’t say, “Why weren’t you more like (some other pastor)? He made you to be you and if he didn’t want you to be you, he wouldn’t have created you!


5. Live for an audience of One. The moment you start worrying about what other people think, your ministry is handicapped. If criticism is true, listen and learn from it. If it is false, ignore it and forget it. Remember that God is the ultimate judge of your life and ministry. Maintain a tough skin and tender heart.


6. Never criticize nor envy another ministry. I’ve seen more pastors defeated by these two traps than anything else. A critical or an envious spirit quenches God’s anointing. God loves to bless people you disagree with! “Who are you to judge someone else's servant? To his own master he stands or falls. And he will stand, for the Lord is able to make him stand” (Romans 14:4). God is watching your reaction to the failures and successes of your brothers. We are to “Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn” (Romans 12:15).


7. Be humble or you’ll stumble. He who gets too big for his britches will inevitably be exposed in the end! Whenever I am prideful I become the enemy of God because “God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble.” Humble people are teachable and don’t rush to judge others Humility is being honest about your weaknesses. Humility is not thinking less of yourself; it is thinking of yourself less! It’s not about you!


8. Learn from everyone. The danger of looking at lists such as, “The 100 fastest growing churches”, or “The 50 largest churches” is that you’ll compare and compete. Bad idea! Instead, learn from the models represented by the churches on those lists. The Bible tells us that skill, not merely dedication, is what brings success (Ecclesiastes 10:10). Work smarter, not harder. Every time I hear about anyone making an impact, I say, “Amen! Now teach me how to do it too!” All leaders are learners. The moment you stop learning, you stop leading. You can learn from anyone if you ask the right questions.


9. Remember all growth is seasonal. Every living thing goes through seasons of growth (spring and summer) and dormancy (fall and winter). Churches go through these seasons. Healthy growth takes TIME. When God wants to make a mushroom, he takes 6 hours. When he wants to make an oak tree, he takes 60 years. Do you want to be a mushroom or an oak tree?
Churches that explode overnight are not necessarily growing; they may simply be swelling by attracting believers who transfer from other churches. That is not legitimate growth. Conversion growth is real growth, so focus on how many new believers you are winning and baptizing, not your attendance.
Nothing bears fruit year round. Your church may be in a Fall-like season right now (no leaves, no fruit) or winter (everything seems dead.) Keep on believing, learning, loving, and putting down roots. Spring and summer are coming! Hang on! The tide goes out, but it always comes back in.


10. Never confuse prominence with significance. My nose is prominent but I could lose it and still live a happy life. On the other hand, my lungs and liver will never been seen but they are far more significant. I’d die without them. You may be serving a small town or in circumstances with limited growth potential. So what? God put you there, and you’d better stay where God put you until God chooses to move you! God has every hair on your head numbered; your ministry matters to the Kingdom!
We’re all in this together. We’re on the same team, and one day we’ll all celebrate together at the feet of Jesus! Be faithful! Keep your eyes on Jesus! God created you. Jesus died for you. The Holy Spirit lives in you. You’ve been called, gifted, and anointed for your ministry. Never give up!

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Do or Die Roles for Every Senior Leader (Michael Warden)

Being the senior leader of an organization is a tough job. Of course, if you are a senior leader, you already know this. People at all levels of your organization regularly place a diverse array of expectations on you and your time. Everyone, it seems, has an opinion on how you should do your job and even what your job should be. And they don't mind telling you (and/or everyone else) when they don't think you're doing it right.

In such a cacophonous environment full of disparate and often opposing demands, it can be difficult for senior leaders to discern just where the lines should be drawn between their job and everyone else’s. Regardless of the size of the organization or the specifics of your particular org chart, what are the roles all senior leaders must fulfill in order for their organization to thrive and grow? Opinions vary—so here’s mine: a list of a few of the roles that I believe are essential for all senior leaders to hold.

1. Keeper of the Mission & Vision for the organization:
Part of your role is to champion the Mission & Vision of your organization and to ensure the team is always moving toward those ends. Because Vision leaks and Mission slips out of focus over time, you have to make it your job to keep the Mission front and center in your people’s eyes, and keep casting vision for the better world you’re all trying to create by pursuing it. And while you should consistently avoid micro-managing your people, in any area where you see the Vision or Mission not being effectively pursued and honored, you have full authority to step in and make whatever changes are necessary to bring that area back in alignment with the Mission & Vision.

2. Keeper of the Values:
Another part of your role is to continually promote and champion the core values of the organization. Every action you take, every conversation you have, every request you make of your team needs to be clearly grounded in and motivated by one or more of your organization’s core values. Anything you’re doing that can’t be directly tied to your core values in this way—either drop it or delegate it to someone else. As the visionary leader of your organization, you are the embodiment of the values. If you don’t live them, who will? As with Mission & Vision, anytime you see the values not being honored in a process or project, you have full authority to step in and do whatever is required to see that the core values are not undermined.

3. Voice of Reality:
Many leadership experts say the chief job of a leader is to “define reality” for those they lead. Another perhaps more useful way to say this is simply “naming what is going on.” Part of the role of Senior Leader is to help the team see the truth of where they are and what needs to happen next to move forward. In this sense, you become like the “red dot” on the map in the shopping mall, identifying “We Are Here.” This defining work includes several areas, such as where we are financially, where we are relationally, where we are with respect to our Mission, Vision, & goals, where we are in relation to our values, and so on.

4. Developer of Teams:
In particular, the core leadership team of the organization. Part of your role is to lead, coach, and mentor the core group of leaders who report directly to you and have significant oversight over the organization as a whole. For you to do this effectively, this team must be filled with people who you believe in and trust and who (like you) think in terms of “we” instead of “me” (in other words, Stage 4 Tribal leaders). You have full authority to choose those team members that you know you can work with and who have the appropriate skills for this role.

5. Chief Encourager and Celebrator:
Senior Leaders are typically wired to always be pushing forward toward the next challenge, so this can be a tough role for them to fill. But celebration and affirmation for a job well done is a critical part of every senior leader’s job. You must be the champion and cheerleader for those you lead—frequently encouraging them as they move toward a goal and regularly pausing to reflect on both victories and defeats and celebrate success as well as lessons learned. This rhythm of engagement and reflection/celebration is essential to your team’s overall health and critical to your role as their leader.

Source and full article here.

Eu Mudo para Continuar o Mesmo (Marcos Botelho)

A palavra mudança incomoda a muitos, principalmente aos líderes de igreja.

Acredito que isso acontece por um erro de conceito na base do pensamento. Os líderes pensam que a igreja, a teologia e principalmente a vida estão em terra firme. Acreditam que essa terra é seca e quando encontram um oásis fixam sua vida toda em torno daquela fonte, construindo casas e cercas para não serem incomodados.

Mas vendo a dinâmica da vida, da sociedade, dos nossos tempos e o amadurecimento que uma pessoa tem com o evangelho, tenho percebido que a vida não está sobre terra firme e sim em um rio agitado.

Aquele que fica parado é levado pela correnteza do sistema, do comodismo e da religiosidade que nos anestesia da vida.

Aquele que experimentou o evangelho nunca mais pode parar de remar, pois sabe que parar é retroceder.

Como diria o filósofo Leonardo Boff: eu mudo para continuar o mesmo.

Mudar não é necessariamente sair do lugar, mudar, muitas vezes, é continuar na mesma fé e convicções. Na correnteza da vida quem não se mexe cai na grande cachoeira.

Percebo que nas igrejas e ministérios, os líderes recusam mudanças, não necessariamente porque estão receosos do que está mudando, mas simplesmente porque acreditam que mudar deve ser um ato raro e de “times que estão perdendo”.

Pensam que a vida está parada em terra firme, mas não. Igrejas e ministérios que não estão pensando e repensando o seu jeito de agir podem estar condenados a serem levados pela correnteza.

Talvez a primeira grande mudança que você pode tentar fazer com a sua igreja e ministério é ensiná-la que mudar é bom, que mudar sempre é preciso. Precisamos estar sempre reformando.

Mudamos para continuar sempre os mesmos!

Fonte: Revista Ultimato

Have you evaluated the heart of your team members lately? (Barry Werner)

Source: Barry Werner

Leaders must make it clear what it takes to be part of their team. Read Matthew 8:18-22.

As Jesus’ popularity throughout Israel grew, many people wanted to join His team—become one of His disciples. Jesus made it clear that to become a member of His team, individuals would have to be more devoted to Him than to personal comfort or even family approval. One way He screened those who wanted to be on His team was to test their level of commitment to Him and to the kingdom. Jesus never begged anyone to follow Him and He always issued tough challenges to potential followers. In fact, Jesus at times openly evaluated His followers to insure where they stood.

Every effective leader knows that a team can accomplish more than an individual. To function well a team must be committed to a common vision and purpose. Even though teams by nature require specialists, team members must be willing to work in unity for the emprovement of the whole rather than only personal advancement. Good team members are willing to combine their strengths to help one another succeed personally, benefit the organization, and honor God’s plan for interaction between people.

Have you evaluated the heart of your team members lately? Have you looked at their motivation for being on the team? Has selfish ambition replaced team synergism? Have you evaluated your own actions; are you doing everything you can to foster team spirit and mutual respect for each other? Team members’ commitment to the cause, the leader, and to each other is critical to an organization’s success.